A wedding toast is a tricky thing. It can be a time for flattery, fun and a lot of sentiment. But it can also be a stressful situation, especially for those who have to say something witty on the spot.
A wedding toast is a tricky thing. It can be a time for flattery, fun and a lot of sentiment. But it can also be a stressful situation, especially for those who have to say something witty on the spot. Wedding consultant Loree Summers Tillman offers some words of wisdom for those who need something smart to say as they raise their glass.
Who should give the toast at a wedding? The Best Man? The Father of the Bride? Each wedding planning guide will write something different but what I have found that works best is starting with the Best Man then Maid or Matron of Honor and so on with the Father of the bride and Father of the groom. Last but not least, the groom may want to make a toast to his bride and/or the bride and groom would like to make a toast together so that they can thank their parents for their love and support and guests for coming.
Anyone who wants to? I typically leave that up to the bride and groom to make that decision. However, it’s not my recommendation to have an open mic at a wedding reception because it can open the doors for inappropriate toasts made by guests that may have had too much to drink!
What sentiment should be expressed in a toast? Jokes? Great love stories? Lots of emotion? All of the above.
What makes a toast memorable? If I had to give some simple tips on making a successful toast it’s don’t wait till the last minute (allow yourself 4 weeks prior); keep it simple; write it down; practice–practice-practice; speak clearly and follow my personal formula:
Step One: Start with thanking the Bride and Groom for allowing you and the all the guests to be a part of their day.
Step Two: Here’s your chance to personalize the toast with a quote, joke (if appropriate), personal story or a special story about the couple such as how the couple has made positive difference in each others lives.
Step Three: Complete your toast by offering your words of support and encouragement then, inviting the guests to raise their glasses to the Bride and Groom.
TOASTING WEBSITES
BOOKS ON TOASTING
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Your Special Wedding Toasts (2004) by Sharon Naylor $10 Buy Now!  |
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The Complete Book of Wedding Toasts (2000) by John William McCluskey $15 Buy Now! |
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Wedding Toasts Made Easy! : The Complete Guide (2006) by Tom Haibeck $15 Buy Now! |